
Originally Posted by
tarajunky
The only 100% effective method of birth control is abstinence, so unless you're intending to become a parent, that's the best avenue.
I also believe that what you think about sex today will be different that what you think about it 15 years from now.
I assume that almost everyone here would like to get married at some point. If you wait until you're married, then you're guaranteed to have the best sex of your life with your spouse. It may seem like sex is "only physical" now, but what if you've had 3 or 4 or 5 partners, then meet someone that you might actually want to spend the rest of your life with? What if the sex isn't quite as good as an experience you've had before? Would you start wandering around, looking for a mistress, or a prostitute, or something else that could destroy an otherwise great marriage? Would you dump a girlfriend, or divorce your spouse solely because the "physical connection" isn't there?
Part of the reason the divorce rate is so high is because many people get married based on infatuation and physical attraction, rather than on a lasting compatibility of shared values and true love. The problem with infatuation and physical attraction is that they are transient. The infatuation fades, and the newness of the physical attraction wanes over months and years. It's a normal physiological process, just like that infatuation and attraction are. What then?
When over half of all new marriages end in divorce within 3 years, I think it's pretty clear that sex and attraction aren't just physical. People emotionally invest a lot into it. And even if you don't think you do, your spouse probably will. Perhaps they overlooked some of your flaws because you were very attractive to them. Perhaps you did the same.
In most cases, there is a pretty strong imbalance between the male and female libido. And those women with strong libidos often don't make good spouses. They say that tramps make good girlfriends but bad wives. My dad was married three times, and the first two cheated on him. He had 3 kids with the second one, all of which were devastated by their divorce. He was out working 12 hour days to keep his family housed, clothed, and fed, and she was at home catting around behind his back. The first time he actually tried to patch things up with her for the sake of the kids, and 6 months later she was at it again with another guy.
Sex should be based on respect, trust, and love, not just physical attraction. The pain caused by getting it backwards is not worth the temporary pleasure.