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    Went to some counseling thing at school, explained my problems and all, but the lady wasn't really of much help. I mean I know all I can really do is get motivated, and help myself get better, there's not much else someone else can do. But I thought talking to counselor would make me feel better/they could help be get better, but it was just meh :/. She kinda just asked what was wrong, ask me to wonder why they were wrong, was I interested in my studies, why am I not motivated, what motivates me, etc etc and I feel like It didn't go anywhere much and I came out feeling no better. I plan to go back and have an appointment with another one instead.

    Still not doing so well.
    Final exams this week. Not going well.
    I'll be all done with school tomorrow, going to try enjoy my summer break and totally forget about the past quarter.
    Going to TRY and work out in the summer, and try to fix myself next quarter.

    More advice or kind words or people in same situation etc comments would be nice.
    Even if you have already said it/are going to paraphrase, it nice to see the support and everything. (Don't just post to post to make me happy though )

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    Don't listen to me, I'm an ass, but here's what you have to do:

    Break the cycle. (And no, suicide isn't an option.) Neither are pills, you don't need to trade 1 addiction for the next, or kill depression with an addiction, FFS. Go talk to people you can be real with, face to face. You gotta be able to share your thoughts and emotions. People who will listen. If your parents, friends etc. aren't real enough, or you are afraid of saying something that will come back to bite you in the ass, try a 12 step group. I wouldn't suggest AA unless alcohol is your main problem. I do Co-dependents Anonymous, those people will take anyone.

    You have to find people who will take you no matter how fucked up you are/ feel you are. Also, avoid the hypocrites. Also, here's the big one, gotta find forgiveness. Life is shit sometimes, (a LOT of the time) only way to make it through is find how forgiveness works. And people without issues/ totally fake don't understand forgiveness. Gotta find the people who are screwed up and trying to get better to be encouraged to forgive your own shit.

    Sorry if that didn't make sense.

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    Hmm, similar story. Way worse in this end.

    I've been going to see a counselor for a few weeks now. I see him about once sometimes twice a week. I've had many before, but this is the first one I've actually liked, and the first that seems to understand and actually care, unlike the rest that really hate their job and cannot wait for you to finish bitching.

    My advice, go to many untill you find one you click with. Dont be shy or feel bad about not continuing with someone you dont like. Take your time.

    Wish you the best.

    EDIT: If you find someone online that you can talk to, is the same as having a counselor, but sometimes more beneficial. People have been through hell and back and there are always those willing to lend an ear and help. Trust me.
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    Hey YoHoJo, I came across this thread and found it interesting. If you don't mind, could you tell me what year of college you just finished up?

    I find this interesting because just today (I suppose yesterday - I'm slightly nocturnal) one of the paragons of excellence from my high school that I just graduated committed suicide. Needless to say, the whole community from where I'm from is in a bunch of turmoil over the individual. He just finished his freshman year in college.

    I didn't read the entire thread, as I was pretty eager to reply, but if you don't mind answering another question, keep reading. I was curious as to what you see as your biggest LACK of motivation?

    The guy who committed suicide - I never would have expected it. Nobody knows why. I think understanding WHY is one of the biggest steps in solving these problems.

    I'm not suggesting that you're contemplating suicide, but I just want you to know there's always a better, living way out of things. If you're ever in a spot of trouble as severe as that, give anyone a holler. You gotta talk things through with other people.

    I guess I'm just a little shocked from my own hometown experiences. Anyway, there's always motivation. I know your dilemma. I'm there. But I have my girlfriend to motivate me. She's the most wonderful person ever! I know my next year in college is going to be difficult because we will be in different places, but I'm willing to work through that.

    Come on, there's work to do!

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    Wow. i feel like i just wrote that myself. Obviously you have plenty support in your life between family and friends which will always make things better in the end. Life is what YOU make it.

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    Hey YoHo,

    I'm not sure how much you actually play RS, but I'd advise to get away from it and take a break from the forums and your computer all-together. You might not realize it, but it really does consume a lot of your life. I basically up and quit my computer "life" cold turkey a few years ago. Just get away for a year or so and find new things to do.

    Not that this is great advice, but start drinking more haha. Pregame the football games with friends, go out to the bars, etc. Get a social life, it really is a blast and you'll eventually get just as addicted to hanging out with friends as you are with being on the computer. Eventually RS, SRL, and whatever else you do on the computer will just be a thought in the back of your mind.

    As for school and studying. That's just college man, there's people that study every day and there's people that cram 2 days before a final. Personally I cram 2-3 days before and I've managed to keep a ~3.6 GPA with an engineering major. I go out to the bars or something of the sort at least 3-4 nights a week though and have a blast.

    Just get out and start being social. Join some clubs, etc... It will be painful and not much fun at first, but just give it a shot and you'll come around to it eventually. College is just as much about the social experience as it is studying.

    I'm always a private message away if you need to talk.
    Best of luck to you old friend!

    Edit: Just curious, what college do you go to?

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    The word I would attach to how you feel is "uninspired," a lot of people go through that, might I suggest trying something new, anything at all, something just to get you out of this funk. It's all about breaking the routine, so even though school is supposed to be more important at this point, I read one of the comments earlier and agree, go out on a friday night, find something to do, recover saturday, and do your studying sunday. Other than that things like this can have simple solutions, order a book of something you're not familiar with. My suggestion would be the Dhammapada which is essentially the bible to Buddhism, and what's great about it is you can pick out a random page and just ponder whats on that page meaning you don't have to dedicate a large amount of time to it. Another simple solution is just try a new hobby. Go for a bike ride or something to clear head. What might also work (and this might seem counter-intuitive because obviously this is something you love to do) but just take a hiatus from anything dealing with your computer. I'm assuming you're some sort of programming major and I've seen people take a break from something they love and when they come back to it they attack it with 10 times more passion than they had when they quit.

    Hope that could help in anyway, I'll be brainstorming more things through-out the day.
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